19 things to look for in a first kiss

How much can you really tell from a kiss? According to Cher, almost everything.

After you two get a chance to get to know each other, flirt, maybe even date, your kiss is when all the cards fall on the table. Because you can flirt with someone you don’t really like and even date someone you don’t like, but people rarely kiss someone they don’t really like.

But… will you still like each other after the kiss? And what does that tell you — is she just interested in sex or is there more? Does it predict wonderful sex life or long, boring nights? And how do you know if he likes the way you kiss?

Seriously, what should you look for in a first kiss? Here are 19 things that will tell you tons.

1. If it is gentle…

Most men are only polite when they really like a girl. It doesn’t mean he’ll marry you – it’s too soon for that – but a soft kiss is a kiss from someone who wants to impress you, who wants you to feel comfortable, cared for, even loved. All and all, if you really want to be in a relationship with this man, gentle kisses are the guarantee to get you there.

2. If it’s rough…

Yes, you’ve come to the conclusion that if he likes it rough when it comes to kissing, he likes it rough when it comes to other things too — and we don’t just mean physical. Maybe this guy is some kind of adrenaline junkie, even if he doesn’t look like one. He is constantly looking for strong emotions, strong experiences, new adventures.

It may be difficult for you to get a commitment from such a man, but it is not impossible. Just don’t stop playing hard to get and don’t be afraid to explore your rough side with her — trust us, she’ll bring it out of you if you let her.

3. If it’s French…

French kisses are more intimate than any other type of kiss and the first French kiss can tell you a lot. A guy who goes straight for French kissing is usually confident, bold and determined. He knows what he wants and no one can stop him from getting it. If you’re hoping this will turn into a long-term relationship, there’s an easy way for you to find out – watch his attitude after you’ve rejected him a few times.

Yes, turn him down — don’t pick up the phone, tell him you have other plans when he asks you out, even call him last minute and cancel. If he still wants you, you’ll see, he won’t give up. Of course, don’t be mean, he’s human after all.

4. If it’s not French…

Is it really a first kiss if it’s not French? Sure it is. Maybe you two are young or he’s shy, but giving a guy access to your lips doesn’t mean he has to dive in to show you he really likes you. A quick peck on the lips is actually the first kiss from someone who really cares and wants to take things slow.

It’s also a kiss from someone who doesn’t want to force you into anything, who isn’t aggressive and always makes sure he gets a positive response before moving on. He will be an attentive guy and a great lover or more, if you really want to be with him, you need to bring him out of his shell a bit.

5. If it’s too French…

French kissing is great, but if your son takes it to a whole new level — and not in a good way — you should know that he’s not the best at self-control or other-centeredness. Being too French on the first kiss means that you don’t really care about satisfying your own desires and what you want.

It doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you, he might actually like you, but he wants to be with you on his terms – he’s giving you all he can and you’re happy and satisfied with that. If you are crazy about her then go for it. Otherwise, be cautious and share some of your concerns about a potential relationship right now.

6. If he pulls your waist towards him while kissing you…

Do you think he is so in love? not really He might be, but if I had to give you my opinion based solely on the fact that he pulled your waist toward him the first time he kissed you, he can’t wait to get you into bed.

7. If his hand is on your face/hair when he kisses you…

Are you kissing someone for the first time and you can feel his hands in your hair or on your face? Lucky you! Such men are usually very passionate and are not afraid to take control over things. You can be sure that he will always be able to take care of you and protect you.

And as if that’s not good enough news, there’s an even better one. Passionate men, if they want you for sex, will put their hands on your bottom. If he touches your hair and face, especially if he does it very gently, then he is truly in love, so you better prepare for a very special journey.

8. If his eyes are closed…

This little gift giving sign has been around for years, and even though some people are trying to discredit it, it’s still as strong as ever. This is because when you’re trying to make the best of something, closing your eyes is an intuitive response when you’re trying to savor every second of a special moment.

That’s why, if a guy’s eyes are closed when he’s kissing you for the first time, it means that he’s probably been waiting for this kiss for a long time and he wants to enjoy it to the fullest. You can be sure that he really likes you, whether it’s just physical or there’s more to it.

9. If his eyes were opened…

Well, it’s pretty self-explanatory if you read what it means to have his eyes closed. A guy can keep his eyes open when he kisses you and still be madly in love, but it won’t be during your first kiss. This will be when he kisses you for a while and he is ready to explore new levels of physical intimacy with you.

Simply put, if a guy’s eyes are open the first time he kisses you, he might be physically attracted to you, but that’s about it.

10. If it’s an endless kiss…

Some men just don’t know when to stop kissing. While kissing is a fun activity, it can become too much after a while. However, even if you are sick and tired of his lips, you must know that a man who can’t stop kissing you is healing for you.

Otherwise he’ll try to go even further — like, take you into the bedroom — or he won’t kiss you to begin with. This guy is respectful and likes you a lot, so hold on to him.

11. If it’s a pretty quick kiss…

It could mean he’s shy, but a quick first kiss usually means he’s not sure he wants to kiss you at all. To find out which one it is, kiss her longer the next time you see her, then hold her hand while walking down the street. If he was happy about it, he was probably too shy. If not, well, at least now you know.

12. If he speaks immediately…

A first kiss with someone you really like usually leaves you stunned for a while, and that goes for both boys and girls. If your crush kisses you and then says something immediately, the fact is that he is not healing for you.

Don’t be too quick to show him the door though, sometimes people develop feelings for each other after a while, and the fact that he’s kissing you definitely means he’s physically attracted.

13. If he smiles immediately…

Now the smile is another thing. You only smile when you do something you enjoy, right? He likes you, and even better, he’s in no rush to get your pants off – if he were, he wouldn’t have time to show you how happy he is.

14. If she doesn’t open her eyes as soon as the kiss ends…

Man, the man is in love. Not only did he close his eyes to sink into the moment of kissing you, he couldn’t get out of this moment. If he doesn’t open his eyes as soon as the kiss ends, it means he can’t get enough of you, so stay in a relationship with this guy.

Just be careful that with men who fall in love, the end of the honeymoon phase can bring a lot of trouble. If you make it through successfully, you’re in it for the long haul.

15. If he moves to kiss your neck and ear…

It’s one thing to want the kiss to last forever, but kissing straight to your neck and ear — you can be sure that this guy wants to take you to the bedroom and fast. Not only that, but he’s probably done it with a lot of other girls.

This is a move that only true playboys make, so be aware – you could be another victim of a seasoned macho. I suggest you keep playing hard until you are completely sure about her feelings for you. Until then, keep kissing to a minimum as well.

16. If he kisses you out of nowhere…

He practically stole a kiss from you, you didn’t even see it coming? This guy is rather impatient and you have to remember that he will do things like this throughout your relationship – he will surprise you and you won’t always like it.

Other than that, he’s a man who goes for what he wants and that’s what most women are looking for. He really likes you, so if you are brave enough, go for it and you can live happily ever after.

17. If he leans towards you slowly, as if asking for permission…

Great guy to be with. He will never do anything without checking that you are okay with it, even if he really wants to do it. It shows that he not only likes you, he respects you. These guys also tend to be great kissers, because they follow your lead, notice what you like, and do it. All and all, I want to allow him to move on.

18. If she responds well to what you do…

If you feel that he really likes kissing you – and if you like kissing him too – it’s a great sign that you can really try and be together. The truth is that a first kiss is the first time you test how compatible you two are physically and if it doesn’t go well, other things won’t either. If she responds well to what you do, keep kissing, there’s something there.

19. If you hate it…

Don’t compromise. As Samantha from “Sex and the City” says, a bad kiss is not worth discussing. Yes, I know it sucks, especially if you’ve liked him for a while, but if you hate his moves now, how are you going to enjoy your time in the bedroom?

If you insist on giving him another chance, start telling him what you didn’t like. Be specific or he’ll get confused and upset. Be sure to top off your criticism with a reminder of why you like her the way you do—because if you’re trying to teach her how to kiss, you’re sure to like her a lot.

Finally, I’d like to leave you with a quote that says:

“We are all mortal until the first kiss and the second glass of wine.” ~ Eduardo Galliano (This tweet)

Happy kissing!