How to help a friend see their own worth

Helping someone see their own worth is difficult. When you’re down, it’s hard to see past destructive thoughts.

I remember when my best friend first told me she was struggling. He was always putting himself down and feeling guilty for things he had no control over.

His frustration and unhappiness came from the fact that he was constantly comparing himself to others. He was in the middle of his class in college, and he couldn’t stop comparing himself to those who were doing better than him.

He never felt good enough, and he was never satisfied with what he had. She wanted to be thinner, prettier and smarter than him. He always focused on his flaws and he didn’t see the good in himself.

He had a brilliant mind to me, and always had something new to talk about. He was friendly and warm… but he couldn’t see it.

It was painful to see him in pain. How can I help him?

There are many ways you can help someone see their own worth, but it takes time, effort, and a lot of patience.

Let’s walk through a few ways to help someone struggling with low prices.

What do you say to someone who struggles with self-worth?

One of the best things you can do is support them in continuing their process of self-discovery.

We all go through moments when we feel unappreciated, and it’s incredibly comforting to have a friend in your corner during the process.

1. Highlight the unique positive things about them

When you highlight the unique things about someone, it can be a great way to help them realize their own worth.

When someone focuses on the good things about themselves, it makes them feel more confident and positive. Don’t underestimate the power of what they say, because a compliment can go a long way.

If they are good at playing the guitar, encourage them to play. If they are a good problem solver or technically minded, talk about it. See where you can bring these things into the conversation and let them work into the material.

2. Encourage them to focus on learning and growth

When people focus on their failures and flaws over and over again, life seems like one big blob of failures and flaws.

But when they focus on learning and growing, they begin to notice their strengths and opportunities. Realizing what they are good at and focusing on those strengths while trying to move forward.

3. Discourage guilt

One of the most important things you can do when helping someone see their own worth is to discourage feelings of guilt.

Guilt is one of the most destructive emotions.

Often, feelings of guilt are based on things that are out of our control. So encourage them to shift their focus to opportunities instead of guilt, fear and doubt.

4. Help them understand that we all go through low points

By reminding them that we all go through low points, you can help them feel less alone and more “normal.”

It helps them put things in perspective and realize that they can move beyond it.

Tell them that “It’s okay to not be okay”.

It can do wonders to remind someone that everyone has their ups and downs… but it can be hard to see when you’re in the middle of your own hard times.

5. Encourage them to focus on gratitude

One of the best things you can do when helping someone see their own worth is to encourage them to focus on gratitude.

When one is grateful for the good things in their life, it helps them notice the good things about themselves.

A good suggestion is to write a gratitude journal – 3 things you are grateful for each day. This can help your brain get into the habit of looking for the good things in life, which in turn helps support self-worth.

6. Go outside and do something fun, especially exercise

One of the best things you can do is get out of the house and do something fun.

It just makes them feel good about themselves. Plus, exercise is a great way to improve your mood chemicals and improve your overall sense of well-being.

So, get active and have some fun!

Go for a hike, shoot some pool, or watch a movie together.

7. Finally. Know that you are not responsible for their self-worth

It’s great that you want to help them see their self-worth, but you’re not responsible for them.

Try to help them, but understand that they need to change before they can change.

Trust them, but don’t babysit them. Encourage, but let them make their own decisions.

All you can do is be helpful. Show empathy, not sympathy. Basically, you’re giving them tools instead of fixing something for them.

Conclusion – How to help someone see their self-worth

To help someone see their self-worth, you should be supportive and positive. Remember that your goal is to make a difference in this person’s life, it is not up to you; They want to change before any real progress can be made.

As long as you understand where your boundaries are, there are ways that you can still support someone who wants better for themselves without feeling like everything is on your shoulders.