19 – 50% of everything you do… is not as good as the other half.
(00:00:06) Rick@Thrivingnow.center: The first time I heard this, it was like a punch in the gut. Oh no, it’s true. Everything I do is not half good. Hey!
(00:00:16) And then I had to laugh because it’s always mathematically true. right?
(00:00:21) The measurement we have, 50% will fall on one side of the measurement and half will fall on the other side. 50/50. half
(00:00:34) But, you know, there’s a part of me that doesn’t really get it. I think because I was raised a certain way and to be a high achiever, to be a perfectionist (I’ve mostly recovered from that), it means that there’s a part of me that always expects everything I do, including this podcast, to be at least 50% over the top. But that is not possible.
(00:01:01) A few examples.
(00:01:02) So let’s take a podcast. A podcast is an act of creativity. And if you do a podcast, two episodes, one is going to be better than the other by some measure. For example, this is episode 19 of the Emotional Freedom for All podcast.
(00:01:27) If I look at the podcasts that I’ve already done, the first 18, based on the number of listeners, guess what? 50% of them did not do as well as the other half.
(00:01:41) Does that mean it’s not half as good as… what? Meaningful?
(00:01:49)Well, in terms of meaningfulness, to me… one of the podcasts that has the least listeners is one that still makes sense to me. I hear it. It reminds me of that. It has a word: Heart-felt What came out of doing the podcast really lived in me.
(00:02:14) I know that word made sense to at least two other listeners in a way that really touched them. But what is the estimate in terms of audience numbers? It is below 50%.
(00:02:29) What about, how does it affect you? Now if you’ve listened to more than one, if you’ve listened to two or more podcasts that I’ve done, guess what? Half of them will mean more to you than others. Half of them will be a little more entertaining, uplifting than the other half. Now, maybe on the spectrum…
(00:02:52) And this is, I think the important thing. It’s probably still a satisfying experience on the spectrum. It is still acceptable. It’s something you’ve chosen to invest some of your time and energy into. Thanks it’s great to have you with us.
(00:03:05)Now, this applies again to what we do.
(00:03:11) If you’re a professional and you work with clients, be it a massage therapist, a coach, an accountant, a lawyer, 50% of the sessions you do by some measure won’t be as good as the other half.
(00:03:30) Now, if that measurement is something like how good it was to do the session, that’s different than a measurement of how impactful it was for the client. What if measuring how much money I made from that client session or engagement of that client versus another estimate? half They are going to fall across a spectrum.
(00:03:53) This even goes for things like hugs and kisses You know, if you measure your hugs and kisses, how much connection do you get or tingle or sense of co-control or how it brings you closer or not, how you feel afterwards, how satisfied you are, guess what they’ll read across the spectrum.
(00:04:18) If you create stories, half of the stories you create won’t feel a certain way compared to the other half.
(00:04:27) You can use something neutral, like how long is it. Half of my podcasts are not as long as the other half. They are all in a range, but half of them are shorter than the other half, half are longer than the other 50%
(00:04:42) Do you see what I’m getting at here? The problem is, our primitive brain says, oh, oh, I’m comparing, I’m comparing, I’m judging. I’m comparing, I’m comparing. Half of what I do, doesn’t compare to the other half.
(00:04:56) And that’s just an internal thing. We can certainly compare with others. When we are seeking emotional freedom for ourselves, looking at that dynamic within ourselves is a great place to start.
(00:05:10) This one, I believe there is relief.
(00:05:14) Guess what? You can’t actually be a perfectionist! 50% of what you and I do cannot be as good as the other half. It is mathematically impossible. We cannot do the same work of creation. we are human
(00:05:34) We don’t show up at work the same way every day. If you take a hundred days on whatever you call work, some days will wear you out more than others. Some will inspire you more than others. Some leave you feeling like you’re part of a group more than the other day.
(00:05:53) That’s right.
(00:05:55) Unless you’re actually a perfectionist… Wow! Thank God!
(00:06:01)It’s also comforting that it’s not always about getting an A++.
(00:06:06) Our schools, at least the ones I went through, grade you based on some standard. I believe it trained my brain to be, and aspire to be, at least 10% at the top. Ah, but when you’re watching your own work, ah, it’s a terrible thing to do.
(00:06:30) It blocks you. As you work two, three, four jobs, you may begin to feel the spectrum of your work. But that doesn’t mean it’s not important work.
(00:06:41) That doesn’t mean your heartstrings aren’t acceptable… and welcome.
(00:06:48) That’s where freedom comes in.
(00:06:50) I believe that if you really take this spectrum, this range, and the measures we can get from everything we do, you can live and express your heartbreak that it’s mathematically designed to exist in multiple spectrums:
(00:07:08) How it feels to you when you do it, how it feels to others, how it feels a month later, how much money it makes, how close you connect, the energy you get from it, and the mental labor it takes. It’s all going to be a spectrum.
(00:07:29) Now, there is a way to avoid this.
(00:07:34) never will do anything
(00:07:39) If you never do anything, if you’re stuck, if you’re frozen, if you’re afraid of doing 50% of the work that you’re not getting as good as the other half on some measure, well, you skip it. And it would be a tragedy.
(00:07:59) I believe that this life was designed for you to express freely.
(00:08:08)I’m Rick from ThrivingNow, and we’re here to support you. We have a community that is growing and welcome you Visit us at thrivingnow.center. Thanks for listening.
