one of the same
Many often combine separate elements. I see this especially when people assign blame. Children blame each other. Children also refuse to take responsibility. It’s always the other person’s fault with a child. The person who did the deed is usually blamed, blamed and responsible.
These elements are not the same. Some adults behave like children. If you combine these elements, remember that children do.
what’s wrong
blame A person who receives punishment or consequences. Blame has no other function. Someone can plead guilty and be innocent of the charges brought against them. Admitting guilt is often noble. When someone is convicted of a crime they did not commit, they plead guilty even though they are not guilty.
what’s wrong
blame who errs in judgement. Unintentional errors are labeled errors. A person who misjudges an action and agrees to allow the action to take place is guilty. The blame need not always be assigned to the person performing the act. He who authorizes conduct, behavior or action is guilty.
who is responsible
responsibility is often shared. Rarely is it isolated. Sometimes it can be different, but it is rare. Responsibility is assigned to the person who performs the conduct, behavior or act. If a person is ordered to behave, behave or act which he does not know to be wrong – usually no guilt is assigned to the offender.
A simple example of this is a member of the military who simply followed orders from a superior. Subordinates enjoy the privilege of exercising limited accountability for fault while accepting responsibility for their actions. The superior who gave the order is usually blamed. In this instance the superior is blamed and the subordinate is advised to avoid repeated mistakes.
Are you unfairly denying personal responsibility?
The subheading is structured as an objective question. Review any conflicts in your interpersonal relationships.
Do you blame your partner for things that are your fault?
Many do. Think about it. What behaviors have you considered permissible and now regret because of unintended consequences?
We see this in partners who allow marijuana use, alcohol use, or even encourage a job that requires time away from their family. In my personal case my spouse accepted my legal situation. Now I look to make a bid. Bid means the end of our relationship. It’s not my fault, but it’s my responsibility. Unfortunately, the blame will now rest on him as he has to deal with the fallout alone. It pains us both equally but the reality is that this chapter in our relationship is over.
Initially people assume no problem. Those who do this in good faith. People suffer when problems arise. Injured people may forget that the fault lies with the one who is injured and not with the one who inflicted the injury. This does not mean that he is not responsible for hurting you. Nor does it mean that they cannot plead guilty. Whose fault is it to forget what should never be done? It could be your fault.
A teacher’s fault for suffering. So, you must learn well. Avoid suffering. You don’t need to constantly revisit the event. Simply revisit the lesson. Education is what should live in the present. The incident should not happen. It’s dead. Rest the dead.
Concluding verse
The Final Testament. Holy Quran. Surah (64:11).” Except in accordance you will have nothing godAnyone who believes in its will godHe will guide his heart. god Are you fully aware of everything?”
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This article is meant to provoke thought – not argument. It is a way of opening the mind to alternative ideologies based on what one reads – not what one hears. Beliefs are personal and of course I respect everyone’s personal beliefs. I don’t condemn anyone for choosing whatever path — obviously I mean choosing my own.
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