When you forget to remember while you’re at it, you drift away without even noticing.
If only we could remember, right in the thick of it, the beauty of what we’ve drowned in…
Sometimes, just as you are falling, it catches you by some invisible thread. After a while, it stops being about the person you fell for; It becomes about love itself. It stands within you like a third entity.
We’ve all tasted the roller coaster phase of love. Once the ride starts moving slowly, it’s already too late to get off. As you’re hitting upside down along the track, you feel like the wild part is behind you. But just when you say, “I think it’s over,” it warns you one last time.
Then the journey slows down. It’s back to where it started. You’re left with a bitter taste in your mouth. When you move, you sometimes feel a strange loss of balance. You may recover quickly, but you may feel nauseous. And it usually depends on what fills your stomach.
An empty stomach is always the safest bet.
Keep that in mind.
Now, think about it. The moment you tasted love on your tongue… the moment you lost your balance… the moment you felt sick to your stomach…
It’s all a part of love.
The real issue is what you fill that belly with.
When you fill it with past frustrations, anger and resentment, an unfortunate ending becomes almost inevitable. So you should always keep your stomach empty. Or, at the very least, only half full.
This is why speaking up is important.
This is why it is important to remember.
I can say the obvious, but you have to remind yourself every day why you are in love.
Because we forget.
I once attended a Dumwork workshop. While there, I realized something: even things we take for granted are completely automatic.
“Can anyone really forget to breathe?” I was amazed.
Turns out, they can.
When the brain is busy with other things, it can forget even its most automatic functions. The instructor kept saying, “Breathe.” And if you remind him once, he will breathe again.
Sounds like a joke, right?
Our mind can forget a process that our body has completely automated.
Because a man can forget to say “I love you” just as he can forget to breathe.
Maybe this is where love changes.
That initial excitement that gave you butterflies eventually turns into something else. Its name may change. Its rhythm may change. But its essence remains the same.
That feeling that once swept you off your feet, that made the world a better place…
It wants to be remembered.
remember
Remind yourself.
If you’re in love, like you sometimes need a reminder to take a breath, remember, “I’m in love with you.”
Don’t let it fall victim to the daily grind, past hurts, expectations or needs – whether fulfilled or unfulfilled.
go now
Tell the person you love.
The second you finish reading it.
remember
tell me
i am in love
i am in love
I’m in love…
with you
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