We’re all on our own journeys, of course, but life is too long to stay in a place you don’t fully enjoy, and sooner or later, you’ll have to change, so build up your courage and find the love of your life!
Professionals
- Dissolved drugs: Suddenly I don’t like housework anymore. You stop counting who does what and trying to maximize your laziness, you just do it and feel valued for the benefit of both people.
- Micro-density: You get unexpected hugs, kisses and surprises, both in mundane and big moments. For example, you are surprised by great spontaneous cooking on a snowy Tuesday night.
- Shared resilience: Have a teammate to share life’s burdens with and feel like someone has your back. Suddenly you don’t need to think about everything; You just have to be present.
- Intuitive Connection: You know someone so well that you can anticipate their needs and desires.
- Beauty and Desire: You never get tired of undressing them and in fact, you push them to buy new clothes and look/feel their best.
- Inner peace: You stop needing to numb the pain because the present no longer bothers you. It changes everything.
- Happy for happiness: You are excited to please them, surprising them is one of the truest moments of joy.
- Identity Height: Your self-esteem increases. You want to look/feel good for them and yourself.
- Focus on key searches: You don’t think so much about the rest of your life: friends, job, family. It becomes secondary, as it should, to your main story. Your beautiful love story…
cons
- Integral: You spend so much time texting them when you’re not together that the only viable solution is remote work.
- END OF Excuses: If you are unhappy, you have no one to blame but yourself. You cannot dwell on resentment or negativity for no reason; You need to find out the real cause of your sadness.
- Compulsory increase: There is no reason not to give your best in and out of the relationship, since you are encouraged and loved. You don’t have an easy time stewing out your flaws.
- Current and Accountable: You cannot attend or call. You need to feed the intensity of the relationship. You are responsible for your actions and can no longer justify selfish behavior.
- Death of Selfishness: You have no one to compete to root for each other instead of trying to one-up each other.
- Double sorrow: Feeling the pain for two hearts instead of one, and perhaps feeling the pain of your half deeper than your own.
- Mandatory Cure: You need to face your problems and trauma to improve life for them and yourself. You have found the best person, so you need to be your best for them.
- Existential Weaknesses: There’s the humbling and terrifying vulnerability of having your entire “main story” tied to one person, but wanting nothing more than that.
I hope you live your own love story this way, and if not, I hope you find the courage to take action. Don’t be sad this upcoming Valentine’s Day, you have the power to find your own great story
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