Do you ever wish that eternal inner conflict would just *shut up*?!
Or have you gotten so used to it that you’ve forgotten how much energy it takes?
To be honest, when I started this job, I was so used to internal conflict and self-criticism that I didn’t even recognize it as a problem. I just knew deep down that life didn’t have to be this hard.
I wish the path was clear for me. I went down many dead end roads. Spent a small fortune trying different therapies, spent more time than I care about driving to and from classes and sessions, and lost years of my life struggling with pain and depression.
There were nights when I woke up in a cold sweat, frozen from nightmares that seemed to happen in seconds. The days I dragged myself to work with little to no focus to spend, just endured the exhaustion of the day.
There were parties and gatherings that I loved going to, that I was either too tired or too scared to attend.
A lot of lost opportunities.
That healing can be done in much less time, with much less pain and much more compressed… If I knew what I know now.
(Rick and I have since guided many people down this path. And each time we’ve refined it.)
As I recovered, the inner conflict calmed down. The critical voice becomes neutral and then loving.
It felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders and my brain. I felt peace.
I still remember my friends face when I suggested we hang out long… I was always the one pushing first for the door, worn out from hours of social time. Then I knew something profound had changed. I had the energy and interest to play and engage!
Just going neutral was great… but something even better happened as I went from neutral to positive. Instead of holding me back, the part of me that was in conflict started *helping* me. It felt natural and easy and something I always dreamed of doing, but never had.
I know sometimes it can be a “market” word when people share this kind of conversion. I wish I had an emotional “scratch and sniff” so I could show you the difference in how my life feels to me, so you’d know it was real, not hype. Then again, I wouldn’t wish how I felt on my worst enemy.
If you want to calm your inner conflict and tame your self-criticism, let’s tap something.
(And if you know you want to go deeper and clear it, go conflicted… neutral… aligned and empowered, please join us Reprogram your primitive brain program Where we’ll walk you through our refined steps, so you can get there as quickly and gently as possible!)
Are you ready to tap?
Take a nice deep breath…
(OK, take another one and let it flow down your lungs, really inhale, if it’s safe for you).
Feel your feet on the ground… wiggle your toes.
Look around the room and notice that you are safe right now. There are no lions or tigers or angry bosses (assuming there aren’t. If there are, please get yourself to safety, then start over).
Hand Side (Karate Chop): Even though I have this internal conflict, I choose to take a deep breath and remember that each side of this conflict loves me and wants what’s best for me… even if it seems like they have weird ways of going about it.
Although self-criticism is sometimes overwhelming, it’s mostly young people who have learned it from others… and they’re just trying to protect me from pain and judgment.
Although the noise in my head is exhausting, I choose to acknowledge the effort and hidden love behind the chaos.
Above the head: There is a lot of cheering.
Eyebrows: There are various fears and beliefs floating around.
Eye direction: And different parts of me are trying to keep me safe.
Under the eyes: Right now, those parts are lost to time and fear.
Under the nose: Unable to connect now…
Chin: They are giving me information based on the time they are stuck…
Collarbone: Based on when they are frozen in time.
Underarm: I choose to be my own superhero.
Above the head: I don’t want them to suffer anymore.
Eyebrows: struggle to stay safe,
Eye direction: Lost in time.
Under the eyes: I like to send love to each and every one of them.
Under the nose: And much appreciated.
Chin: Even stuck…
Collarbone: They tried to help me.
Underarm: They deserve help.
Above the head: I send love,
Eyebrows: and healing power.
Eye direction: I send them gentle taps.
Under the eyes: And know they have hope.
Under the nose: I let them know that we all want the same thing.
Chin: And that they did a great job.
Collarbone: I told them I have really good news for them…
Underarm: Now it’s okay to rest and heal.
Above the head: They are safe.
Take another deep breath.
Notice what you feel. (You might want to write it down and tap it some more!)
When we fight and blame internal conflicts, the conflict often goes away. And where there was once criticism and misery, quiet peaceful purpose can emerge.
If you are tired of fighting with yourself and want to find a place of quiet peaceful purpose, Join us for Reprogram your primal brain. We will guide you through the most powerful and loving method we have ever seen, which Rick and I have developed over 20+ years of research and testing. The program closes at midnight on Friday, so if you’re a yes, please click the button below and enter your information!
There is also a practical skills workshop for this Your noise is quiet That can be extremely helpful. It ends at our community center here.
