Do you compare yourself to others? Who does not!
We are conditioned by glossy magazines, advertisements, fashion models, sports and high-pressure workplaces to compare ourselves to others… and to determine where we stand. The ladder of status.
When the trap comes to us Primitive brain Shows someone who has good in them Something we value Our subconscious then generalizes and can conclude: “Oh, he’s good at it… so he is better than me“
It’s hard to make a mutual loving connection when you’re competing. Creates self-evaluation compared to others excitement. When we start to feel “less than” the people around us, we want to hide. And when we are “forced” to be around others, we can feel it Strong and alert.
If you want to come out of your shell and create real warmth and caring in your life, A fresh perspective can go a long way in transforming how you feel and how you walk in the world!
In the old paradigm, I had to be the prettiest, smartest, funniest, and most talented… and make the most money… worthy of any love or attention. I have to be at the top of the pile for everything, or I feel like crap.
Many of us are taught this game as children. You could have just won the Nobel Prize and someone else made everyone laugh… and you feel like you’re not good enough. We are taught to see life that way, as a competition, and that can get in the way of being intimate and loving.
In our emotional world, it’s not really about who is the smartest, the prettiest, or who has the fastest comeback. When you’re feeling down, or having a bad day, you look for that person who has something Compassion and kindness to overdo Change the rules of your life and you can walk as a “winner” just by being someone who notices other people and says “hi” with a kind smile.
You don’t have to be funny. You don’t have to be fantastic. You don’t have to be this tall or this skinny or that… perfect. Sometimes just being kind is enough to connect and make the other person feel, “Oh my goodness, thank you so much.”
In a world where so many people are bored and don’t care about each other, who doesn’t want a kind person around?
Many of us get caught up in our own stories, and judging ourselves and others, we’re not even present with each other. We really don’t there with our friends something EFT Tapping And practice can change this pattern and create new and beautiful patterns in our lives!
Hand Direction: Although I thought I had to be the best everything be worth somethingIf it was just a game I was playing and I didn’t need to play anymore.
Although they all taught me to play this game, and I put a lot of energy into it… I was determined to win. But this game just creates stress… there’s always someone new who could be better at something else.
Although I have invested a lot of time in this game, I choose to find a better, more loving way to connect with people.
Above the head: What if I accept myself for who I am?
Eyebrows: What if I decided that was good enough?
Eye direction: If I can be present with the people I’m with…
Under the eyes: And really enjoy them…
Under the nose: Rather than competing with them all the time?
Chin: It can bring a deeper connection.
Collarbone: And that’s what I wanted all along!
Underarm: I was trying to earn it by being the best.
Above the head: If I can get it for me?
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The truth is, we are all insecure in our own ways. Being yourself is not something we were taught in seventh grade or when we were a wee tyke.
Those who are angry, controlling and domineering… have their own thing. In order to feel safe in their world, they need to control everything in their “egg” and they try to make their egg as big as possible without breaking it.
When everything is a competition, there is no room for warm connections. When everything is a competition, it’s hard to relax or remember that other people feel insecure and unsure inside too.
Hand Direction: Although I thought I was the only one feeling insecure, they sure pretend to be all safe and confident, maybe we’re all humans looking for connection?
Even though I could enter the competition and win, I would miss the love and warmth available right now by trying and trying and trying to be good enough to qualify.
Even though they all look so sure… or at least I see them from inside my shell… so what if we’re all insecure in our own ways and I can now reach out with newfound confidence?
Above the head: What if we are all insecure in our own ways?
Eyebrows: I thought it was just me!
Eye direction: It feels very lonely in my shell.
Under the eyes: But I have positive traits.
Under the nose: I’m not exactly “rotten to the core”.
Chin: I can be amazingly kind.
Collarbone: And I have a caring bone in my body… maybe even two.
Underarm: I choose to love and accept myself a little more now.
Above the head: I even decided to respect my own standards.
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Did you find this helpful? Which statements were particularly powerful for you? We want to hear how.
Our mission is to help people transform their emotional world. We may live in a world of competition… for status, for money, for power… even for love. This world exists only in this world.
There is also a world where people want to co-create. Where individuals and groups recognize the value of safety and respect… and freedom… and they invest heart and soul in cultivating these qualities. We have such a place Rich now circle. Other tribes around the world are also doing this.
Transitioning from a set of life rules based on competition and perfectionism… to life freedom… well, for many of us it takes some practical practice, a lot of tapping into emerging fears, and experienced guidance on how. Open up when you feel safe and confident. If that sounds like what you’re looking for, we recommend getting us Reprogram your primal brain program as the next step.
