Do you want control? Who does not! Ever since we discovered the power of the word NO in childhood, we’ve used NO to ward off what we don’t want… or at least that’s the theory.
When we demonstrate our own personal power to resist and say no, we feel in control. And that feeling well Yet, sometimes we resist what is in our own stated best interests. We say no to ourselves! We say no to our own positive choices.
There is nothing wrong with “no”. We all need to be able to say no and mean it. And we mean mental freedom Yes! For life too. Suffering comes when the same mind fights with yes and no. My mind. your mind
Most of the time, we are really upset with ourselves when we say we want a thing but our behavior shows that we are not really saying it. Without anger, if we have some fun in this conflict? What if we love and accept ourselves? with conflict? What if we use curiosity And joke Rather than deep seriousness as we tap? Let’s try an experiment and find out. Tap along with me as we do some quick tapping (Check out our free e-book Learning EFT Tapping (if you need to review the tapping points first)
(hand side – karate chop) Even though I want to do it, I don’t want to do it, and you can’t make me!
Even though I don’t want to do it, and I want to do it, and I can’t make me, I’m still okay!
Although I don’t and I do and I don’t and I will and I won’t and no no no no no! You can’t make me! I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway!
(over the head) No! You can’t make me!
(eyebrows) I don’t want to!
(beside eyes) Yes, I want!
(under eye) No, you won’t!
(under his breath) You can’t make me!
(Chin) No! No! No! No! No!
(Collarbone) Pulleys! Don’t make me!
(under arm) I have to! I just have to!
(over the head) I can! I can’t! I will! I will not! I certainly am! I must not… or I will die!
take a breath…
(hand side – karate chop) I want to be healthy even if I’m not healthy!
Although I am obviously not healthy, I want to be healthy!
Although I am confused about health, I choose to be healthy!
(eyebrows) No I don’t, and you can’t make me!
(beside the eyes) I want to be thin and have lots of energy!
(under the eyes) No, I want to grow up! Comfortable! Fat and happy!
(under nose) You can’t make me thin!
(Chin) You can’t make me fat!
(Collarbone) No wonder I’m confused!
(under arm) You can’t make me sick! I like to be in control!
(over the head) I say yes to health, today, now!
take a breath…
(hand side – karate chop) Although I’m not rich, I want to be rich!
Although I am obviously not rich, I want to be rich!
Although I am conflicted about wealth, I choose to be rich!
(eyebrows) No I don’t, and you can’t make me!
(across the eyes) I want a lot of money!
(under eyes) No, I want to be poor. I love hate! Who would I be without bills that I can’t pay?
(under nose) You can’t pay me!
(China) You can’t stop me from making a lot of money!
(collar bone) I’m so torn!
(under arm) You can’t make me poor! I like to be in control!
(overhead) I say yes to riches, today, right now!
take a breath…
(hand side – karate chop) Even though I’m stuck, I want to live my dream!
Although I am not taking enough steps, I want to live my dream!
Even though I’m stuck and it’s my fault, I choose to live my dreams anyway!
(eyebrows) No I don’t, and you can’t make me!
(beside eyes) I want to live a full life!
(under eyes) No, I want to be sad and lonely!!
(Under his breath) You can’t make me happy!
(Chin) You can’t stop me from living my dream!
(Collarbone) I’m so stuck!
(under arm) You can’t hold me back! I like to be in control!
(top of head) I say yes to life, love and peace… and the biggest and best I can be, today, right now!
take a breath…
(hand side – karate chop) Even though I argue with myself, I deeply and completely love and accept me.
Even though I tell myself no, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I focus on being in control rather than being creative and flexible, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
(eyebrows) It’s okay to say no.
(beside the eyes) It’s okay to say yes!
(under eyes) I’m sick and tired of saying yes and no at the same time!
(under nose) I decided to come clean.
(Chin) It’s okay to be safe, and say yes.
(Collarbone) This is my choice.
(under arm) I’m in control.
(overhead) I am safe, free, and love to feel in control of what I choose for my life, today, in this moment.
Take a deep breath… and another… and another big one…
Now, in your best imitation of a three-year-old, tell yourself: “No! You can’t make me!”
Does it feel different now? Is there anything stupid about it?? You can make it silly. You can choose to make all of your decisions silly, a comedy of confusion. And after you use that deep breath EFT Tapping Regarding confusion and resistance, ask yourself your truth. And do yours Yes! Power behind your What True Baba told you, what Mother showed you, and what society emphasized are ultimately just words, distracting us from listening to the voice of our Higher Self.
I believe that in your heart, you can connect to the highest truth of who you are. You will know it by a feeling Yes!A deep beautiful feeling at the center of your being that guides and nurtures your best energy and health from a source of love. Even if you don’t feel it yet, it’s there. And it’s worth saying yes! If that’s what you like. No one can make you without you.
(Originally written March 7, 2006)
