Being in love, renews and changes everything it touches
Dear Thoughtful Reader,
Being in love doesn’t just add anything to life.
It changes the feeling of life.
Simple things carry more meaning. Work has a different weight. There is more life in writing. A lightness approaches the surface. Small kindnesses seem less small. Even the dull little tasks of a day can feel like places where love can go.
This is what I mean by an overflowing cup.
I’m not talking about a vague idea of romance. I mean real, pure, authentic, unconditional romantic love. That kind of has a favorite. a face a voice A soul. A specific gravity.
There are many types of love. Love for children. love for family love for friends Love for faith, language or numbers. A love for humanity, beauty, animals, music, rain windows, and all the weird little things that make life worth waking up to.
But falling in love has its own current.
It gathers around the Beloved, and somehow that focus illuminates everything else.
Beloved is the flame, but the light touches the whole house.
That light changes us.
It doesn’t just make some private, secret corner of our hearts happy. It changes what we carry into the world. It makes us stronger. Kinder is more awake. Better able to put meaning to what we do and how we do it.
It brings light to shadowy places.
It makes the unseen visible.
It reminds us that life is not just about anything. It is something to touch properly. Something to care for. We can bless in whatever small way.
And people notice.
Our children notice. Notice to friends. Family notice. People around us take on a different quality in us when we are happier and more alive inside love. Our relationship can be better because we come across differently. warm More patient. more present Low empties out before we even enter the room.
It changes our relationship with ourselves.
Being in love can make us see ourselves differently. Fewer problems to manage, like a person whose life runs through them. It can remind us of our own warmth, our own beauty, our own capacity to hope, to give, to begin again.
Love shows kindness from nowhere.
It gives more current.
I’ve always believed that if you think something genuinely kind about someone, they should hear it. A compliment shouldn’t stick in the mind if it can brighten someone’s day.
But when love lives in me, that instinct is more charged.
Smile at a stranger. A warm message. A little more patience. A little more mercy. I am a man with a stronger desire to leave lighter than I found them.
It doesn’t even make me want to shout obscenities at people who don’t use their turn signals – or point for us Brits. Especially in roundabouts. But that’s a story for another time.
That’s how powerful it is.
And maybe that sounds small, but I don’t think so.
Because being in love doesn’t just transform into great, cinematic parts of life. It transforms minors. The tone of the answer. How we see someone. Care we make a task. The patience we find when we think we have none.
It makes the world seem worthy of being treated with more care.
The world is not always kind.
Because love has reminded us that money can still be made here.
That’s the beauty of being in love when it’s real.
It starts with a loved one, but it doesn’t stop there. environment becomes strength kindness Light is moving through ordinary life.
The cup is filled in one place.
Then everything touched by the overflow recognizes it.
– She of the Candlelit Mind ❤
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This post was Previously published at medium.com.
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