Why is money not easy? Why isn’t it easier to track… easier to allow… easier to deal with?
We work with people with money problems all the time. We have worked with thousands of people on their financial struggles and desires for abundance. And the number 1 reason for conflict and struggle around money is…
Guilt and shame.
People naturally want to stay away From things that make them feel bad… and guilt and shame are both difficult and the most sticky Emotions… especially when people don’t have the skills and ideas that allow them to clear up and reframe the problem.
Guilt and shame around money is so present that some people say they have no block there… they would be delighted to be a millionaire!
Only after digging a little deeper did they find the hidden layers they had become so accustomed to, they had lost sight of them. It’s like a fish in water probably doesn’t think about water… it’s always there and has been for life.
Since most people inherit many of their beliefs and emotions from their parents at a very young age… it is probably true that you have had paternal shackles around money all your life!!
Why is guilt and shame around money a problem?
Human brains don’t work well when they try Avoid emotional pain… Especially when they are confused. The primitive brain tries to protect you by testing you, confusing you, and making it hard to “get there.” Just as it would make it difficult to “go” to a pit full of poisonous snakes.
For most people, money has become so associated with feelings of guilt and shame that our primitive brains are filled with feelings of balancing the checkbook, getting a raise, paying bills and saving… if not deadly snake pits, at least potentially painful. Guilt says, “I did something wrong.” Shame says, “I’m doing something wrong.” Every guilt and shame weighs you down and blocks the flow of abundance and creativity.
When we’re alert to danger, it’s hard to focus or make good decisions, and we can easily and quickly sabotage our efforts without realizing it. Our primal brain is powerful and can make us do things we never consciously plan. It’s not trying to hurt us… It is trying to protect us based on our emotions and beliefs around money.
Examining, revealing and updating your energy around money Financial matters can transform your relationship in a really powerful way. And letting go of guilt and shame around money can actually connect you to your creative energy in a different way — allowing you to feel more attuned to sharing. value A new way with the world!
Imagine looking forward to seeing your bank balance and tracking your money… and feeling confident and easy about exchanging value with other people. How about being excited and comfortable paying bills, deciding what’s a good use of your money, and actually enjoying your financial decisions?! How about knowing that you can make positive changes without struggle…and go for your dreams? It is possible. It can even be fun and easy!
Letting go of guilt and shame around money can be a huge part of that journey. In fact, we’ve never seen anyone change their relationship with money and abundance without committing to their guilt and shame. This doesn’t mean it all has to go away… but the emotions and causes of internalized guilt and shame need to be aware and understood… and the primitive brain needs to be soothed and reprogrammed around the issues.
We love that you are here… reading, thinking and doing Something about your beliefs. So many people struggle their entire lives with the same beliefs and passions. You are making a powerful, important change in your life right now! Great job!!
Let’s take a first step together (with some simple touch) and begin to calm down and identify your guilt and shame:
Hand Direction: Money wasn’t easy for me though, and I wondered what I was doing wrong… maybe I was subconsciously chasing it all this time?!
Even though I don’t feel as encouraged and confident as I used to around money and financial abundance… and I thought that was just the way it was… what if my parents’ faith had been standing in my way all this time?
Although it seems like everyone is conflicted about money… and it seems normal to struggle around it and feel heavy… so what if it’s because my primal brain is protecting me?! If only I could let go of the pain and go!
Above the head: There is a lot of confusion in society about money.
Eyebrows: If you have too much…
Eye direction: You are greedy and selfish.
Under the eyes: If you have too few, you feel shame.
Under the nose: If you are messy…
Chin: You are careless and lazy.
Collarbone: If you are very organized…
Underarm: You are obsessive.
Above the head: There are many rules around money.
Eyebrows: No wonder I felt guilty and ashamed.
Eye direction: No wonder I never win!
Under the eyes: It’s not surprising that dealing with money is difficult.
Under the nose: And why would my subconscious want things that make me feel bad?!
Chin: If I let go of shame and guilt…
Collarbone: And helped myself to understand what is true for me…
Underarm: Things may be different…
Above the head: It can be easy to suddenly move on!
Eyebrows: I find that I am happy to allow the flow…
Eye direction: Especially if I’m not “bad” for asking for it…
Under the eyes: Or getting!
Under the nose: Of course I didn’t want anything else that made me feel bad.
Chin: It made my parents and their parents struggle and fight.
Collarbone: And I can let go of the beliefs they gave me…
Underarm: Which do not fit into my life.
Above the head: And I can now allow a new level of joy and financial abundance!!
Take a deep breath.
Notice how you feel now. Remember – no wrong The feeling you’re feeling empowered and encouraged, is wonderful! Celebrate that.
And if you’re feeling sad and aware that things are holding you back… realize that you’ve allowed yourself to see the “scary” things that are holding you back. Great job! Jot those thoughts down and tap into them some more Every time you become aware of it (be aware of it, write it down), and clear it (by tapping), you are making your life safer and more loving. And it makes the world a better place.
Keep up the great work! And if you want to address this, check out our EFT Tapping Course: Cure your guilt and shame around money.
Warm, many greetings,
Cathy and Rick
