Have you ever caught yourself in that moment of comparison, feeling “I’ll never make it”? I want to share how how you see these moments can transform this human experience.
Primitive vs. Enriched Mind
Our brain’s primitive comparison system has served us well for survival. It makes quick assessments: “Am I strong enough to fight? Fast enough to flee? Should I back off or keep my distance?”
This instinct still helps us navigate potentially dangerous situations — from crossing the street to avoiding toxic work environments where bosses use fear as our survival mode.
But there’s a better way to use comparison—one that works for our prosperity rather than just our survival.
Finding your unique expression
Imagine someone dunking a basketball with power and grace. If you’ve never been tall enough to drown, that comparison might sting.
But here’s the magic: What if we take a deeper look at what really attracts us at that moment?
When I described dunking, two words came up: strength And grace.
Desire isn’t really about dunking—it’s about expressing strength and grace in our own unique ways.
A 5’2″ gymnast can never dunk the basketball, but they can express incredible strength and grace in a way that a 7-foot basketball player never can.
Conversion of comparison into motivation
Here’s how to make the comparison work for you:
- Notice when a comparison feels “sticky” or emotional.
- Ask yourself: “What qualities am I praising here?”
- Consider: “How can I express these qualities in my own way?”
A drinking example
In my own life, I noticed how I admired certain qualities in others’ social connections. Instead of feeling bad for not being a “drinking buddy” type, I recognized my desire for meaningful connection. This led me to develop “spirit buddies” – deep, authentic connections that align with who I am.
Finding your strength and grace… here and now
Even in something as simple as my morning mile, I found an expression of my own strength and grace: using a walking stick, walking through the woods like a sure-footed animal! It’s not about being a cheetah or a mountain lion. It’s about being me, walking with my own brand of strength and grace.
liberation
When we move from “I can’t do that” to “How can I express these qualities in my own way?” Comparison loses its bite. It becomes the guide pointing to our own authentic heart.
Remember: Every primal instinct, including comparison, can serve to improve us when we learn to frame it in wisdom. This talent awaits your unique expression!
What qualities are you admiring in others today? How can you express them in your own powerful way?
Sustain Prosperity… Now and Ahead!
Rick
